WEBVTT 00:00:00.162 --> 00:00:08.427 - Good afternoon. Welcome to the Bloomington Rotary Club's weekly celebration of service. I'm Steve Wicks 00:00:08.427 --> 00:00:16.533 - and I'm honored to serve as your president this year. Please silence your electronic devices. On this 00:00:16.533 --> 00:00:25.196 - day in history, June 16th, 2024, 105 year old Virginia Hislop graduated with a master's diploma in education 00:00:25.196 --> 00:00:27.262 - from Stanford University. 00:00:27.810 --> 00:00:34.654 - 83 years after she had to leave early. Hislop had completed her coursework, but had not finished her 00:00:34.654 --> 00:00:41.429 - thesis when she left school to marry her boyfriend who had been called to serve in World War II. In 00:00:41.429 --> 00:00:48.273 - honor of Flag Day and this week's Juneteenth holiday, please stand if you are able for the Pledge of 00:00:48.273 --> 00:00:49.086 - Allegiance. 00:00:55.074 --> 00:01:09.016 - I pledge allegiance to the flag of the United States of America and to the Republic for which it stands, 00:01:09.016 --> 00:01:24.286 - one nation under God, indivisible with liberty and justice for all. Judy Schroeder will share a reflection. Hello. 00:01:24.930 --> 00:01:34.027 - When I signed up to do the reflection, I didn't know the topic of today's meeting was going to be senior 00:01:34.027 --> 00:01:42.690 - reminiscence. This is what the reflection is, so we're getting kind of a jump start on it. May 5th, 00:01:42.690 --> 00:01:51.873 - 1987 was my 46th birthday. It was also the day that I read in the Herald telephone that the United States 00:01:51.873 --> 00:01:53.086 - Supreme Court 00:01:53.986 --> 00:02:05.047 - had decreed women had to be allowed to join rotary clubs in the United States. Huh, I thought. A month 00:02:05.047 --> 00:02:15.786 - after that, Rotary International passed a decree allowing women to join clubs in the United States. 00:02:15.786 --> 00:02:23.518 - And in 1988, Rotary International extended that to Canada. And in 1989, 00:02:24.226 --> 00:02:34.462 - they extended it nationwide. I mean, worldwide. Well, early in 1988, my graduate school buddy, 00:02:34.462 --> 00:02:45.344 - Kent Owen, who once described himself as the entire left wing of the Monroe County Republican Party, 00:02:45.344 --> 00:02:49.438 - asked me whether I'd be interested in 00:02:50.242 --> 00:02:58.119 - joining Rotary. I knew nothing about Rotary, but I did know about the Supreme Court. So I said, does 00:02:58.119 --> 00:03:05.919 - Rotary discriminate against people on the basis of race or religion? And that's when Kent explained 00:03:05.919 --> 00:03:13.796 - to me the international part, that there were members of all races and all religions. So I said, OK. 00:03:13.796 --> 00:03:19.646 - I didn't hear anything more until he called and invited me to an induction 00:03:19.874 --> 00:03:32.320 - at the poplars where this club then met. I got there and Charlotte Zitlow, Joyce Poling and I were inducted, 00:03:32.320 --> 00:03:44.537 - bringing the grand total of Rotarians in this club to six. Also inducted was Bob Salzburg, who had refused 00:03:44.537 --> 00:03:48.990 - invitations until such time that women 00:03:49.154 --> 00:04:02.544 - were admitted. Bud Core was the president of the club at that time. And Bud was also CEO of Bloomington 00:04:02.544 --> 00:04:15.934 - Hospital in that he really spearheaded this club's involvement in Polio Plus. This club in 1988 pledged 00:04:16.258 --> 00:04:27.002 - $100,000 towards Folio Plus. Well, Bud called me after my induction and I saw that the club was in trouble. 00:04:27.002 --> 00:04:37.149 - They had just inducted someone whose salary was $25,000 a year, a single mom whose elder son had just 00:04:37.149 --> 00:04:45.406 - finished his freshman year of college and younger son was a junior in high school. 00:04:45.762 --> 00:04:54.161 - But I decided I'd be the best rotarian I could be in ways that didn't cost money. There's lots you can 00:04:54.161 --> 00:05:02.314 - do. You can be a member of a committee. You can commute community service projects. You can sponsor 00:05:02.314 --> 00:05:10.468 - a rotarian. I was even able to host members of the group study exchange because I had empty beds in 00:05:10.468 --> 00:05:12.670 - my house. Well, this club, 00:05:13.026 --> 00:05:24.314 - has changed a lot. I've changed a lot. Rotary International has changed a lot in the last 38 years. 00:05:24.314 --> 00:05:35.716 - But I'm still very proud to be a Rotarian. Now 20% of members worldwide are women, 33% in the United 00:05:35.716 --> 00:05:39.102 - States, and 40% in this club. 00:05:42.146 --> 00:05:51.819 - Hey, don't clap too loudly. There's a club in Bloomington, Illinois that has 55%. You might say that 00:05:51.819 --> 00:06:01.493 - the Supreme Court caught my attention, but Rotary has held my heart. Thank you. Thank you, Judy. And 00:06:01.493 --> 00:06:11.262 - you're still giving today. You're working, volunteering at the front desk this morning. So thank you. 00:06:12.066 --> 00:06:23.092 - Peggy Frisbee will introduce our guests today. Good afternoon, everyone. As I say your name, would you 00:06:23.092 --> 00:06:34.224 - please rise so we can recognize you? That means the guests. Okay. First of all, we have, actually, it's 00:06:34.224 --> 00:06:41.182 - going to be our speaker, Bill Eskew. And so, well, that's wrong. 00:06:42.498 --> 00:06:59.533 - and is the speaker. So let's recognize Phil, okay? Okay, I'll get better here. We also have Brett Becker, 00:06:59.533 --> 00:07:10.622 - guest of Wendell St. John. We have Bill Nyhill, guest of Phil Eskew. 00:07:15.586 --> 00:07:33.479 - April Settles from Old National Bank, guest of John Zote. Becky Wan, guest of Brad Meyer. Betty Coffey, 00:07:33.479 --> 00:07:42.942 - guest of Glenda Murray. Ed Ryan, guest of Steve Engel. 00:07:46.498 --> 00:07:58.014 - Two more. Felix Breeden, guest of Mike Wade. I think two more. And Frida Cruz, guest of Tyler Martin 00:07:58.014 --> 00:08:10.099 - Nichols. If you are having a good time today, which we have all the time, want to know more about Rotary, 00:08:10.099 --> 00:08:15.230 - please ask anyone at your table or certainly 00:08:15.682 --> 00:08:23.297 - our fearless leader over here. Thank you, Peggy. Laurie, do we have any guests online? We do not have 00:08:23.297 --> 00:08:31.136 - any identified guests today. Thank you. Birthdays and anniversaries. We have a number to celebrate since 00:08:31.136 --> 00:08:38.825 - we're having the picnic next week. I went ahead and did two weeks worth. So on the 20th of June, three 00:08:38.825 --> 00:08:43.006 - Rotarians, Marshall Goss, Jim Harvey, and Peter Kroner. 00:08:45.186 --> 00:08:53.254 - On the 24th of June, a young man sitting over at that table, John Hobson, has a birthday. And then on 00:08:53.254 --> 00:09:01.400 - the 25th, Alan Boyd. Also have a number of anniversaries. On the 18th, Martha Wales, 13 years with the 00:09:01.400 --> 00:09:09.705 - club. On the 20th, Forrest Gilmore and Amy Kendall, both three years with our club. On the 22nd, sitting 00:09:09.705 --> 00:09:14.846 - over at the main desk, Amy Osajima, nine years with Rotary Club. 00:09:15.650 --> 00:09:23.926 - On the 23rd, Ashley Wesley, 11 years. And then finally on the 27th, Hannah Hirsch, three years. 00:09:23.926 --> 00:09:32.979 - Announcements. So many of you have signed up to help for weekly meeting during the next quarter. There's 00:09:32.979 --> 00:09:42.462 - still more slots to fill. Our new president, Tracy, doesn't want to do everything herself. So please sign up. 00:09:42.978 --> 00:09:49.870 - Roundabout is the best way to do it. Just look for the link in the roundabout. Our host last Tuesday, 00:09:49.870 --> 00:09:57.100 - the Neil Marshall Black Culture Center is a co-sponsor for the City of Bloomington Juneteenth celebration. 00:09:57.100 --> 00:10:04.195 - Takes place from 11 a.m. to 9 p.m. Friday, June 19th at Switchyard Park. So there'll be the usual Friday 00:10:04.195 --> 00:10:11.087 - food trucks. There'll be family-friendly activities, a beer garden, multiple musical performances. It 00:10:11.087 --> 00:10:12.574 - should be a fun time. 00:10:12.738 --> 00:10:20.457 - Next week, reminder, we will not be here. This is one of the weeks when the union is fully booked. So 00:10:20.457 --> 00:10:28.251 - we've scheduled our club picnic, and it will be from noon to 1, Brian Park Woodlawn Shelter. So please 00:10:28.251 --> 00:10:35.969 - join us. Fourth announcement, Jill Jaloff has accepted our offer to fill the open executive assistant 00:10:35.969 --> 00:10:41.342 - position. She plans to start at Thursday's board of directors meeting. 00:10:41.826 --> 00:10:50.193 - Tyler is still here. I haven't run him off yet. But you still have time, Tyler. Lots more announcements. 00:10:50.193 --> 00:10:58.321 - We're running a little bit short on time. So please check the roundabout for the other announcements. 00:10:58.321 --> 00:11:06.369 - And now Alain Barker will take us through Bloomington Rotary Foundation's annual meeting. Thank you, 00:11:06.369 --> 00:11:11.070 - President Steve. Hi, everybody. It's great to see you all. 00:11:11.554 --> 00:11:18.109 - and I've got Ron Bonds here who's gonna be stepping into the same role. I am the current president of 00:11:18.109 --> 00:11:25.050 - the Bloomington Rotary Foundation. How many of you are very clear about the distinction between Bloomington 00:11:25.050 --> 00:11:31.477 - Rotary Foundation and the International Rotary Foundation? Okay, so you know the difference between 00:11:31.477 --> 00:11:38.096 - the two, fantastic. Good, so I'm here, what's that? About 50% of us know about that. So what I'm gonna 00:11:38.096 --> 00:11:41.438 - do is I'm gonna go through a quick slide deck here. 00:11:41.538 --> 00:11:48.478 - Let's see if I've got the, here we go. I've got this. I'd like to be able to just distinguish exactly, 00:11:48.478 --> 00:11:55.283 - well, to identify and confirm exactly what the foundation is. The foundation is a 501c3 corporation. 00:11:55.283 --> 00:12:02.020 - That is a corporation that can receive funds that in many instances are tax deductible, but I won't 00:12:02.020 --> 00:12:08.286 - go into exactly how and why because I'm not a lawyer or an accountant. But it is a 501c3 and 00:12:08.386 --> 00:12:15.739 - that distinguishes itself from the club, which is a 501C4 corporation. So the Bloomington Rotary Club 00:12:15.739 --> 00:12:23.165 - is a social welfare organization, 501C4, and the foundation that we have, that we run, that all of you 00:12:23.165 --> 00:12:30.590 - are members of, is a 501C3 that is specifically designed to support the good work of our organization. 00:12:30.882 --> 00:12:36.673 - So it's supporting charitable work of the club. And for that matter, we also provide services to the 00:12:36.673 --> 00:12:42.464 - other two rotary clubs in Bloomington. It's a membership organization, as I mentioned, all of us are 00:12:42.464 --> 00:12:48.255 - automatically members of the organization. We have a very capable board that is made up specifically 00:12:48.255 --> 00:12:52.670 - of club members. So that's just wanted to be clear about exactly what it is. 00:12:53.250 --> 00:12:59.895 - It does have history, and I want to thank Sally Gaskell for putting together this PowerPoint here. We 00:12:59.895 --> 00:13:06.409 - were founded in 1986 and have done some really spectacular work along the way, including supporting 00:13:06.409 --> 00:13:09.406 - Teachers' Warehouse as it was formed in 2004. 00:13:10.242 --> 00:13:17.867 - We, with the Rotary Toast, we are the entity that receives the funds and then distributes the funds 00:13:17.867 --> 00:13:25.721 - for the Rotary Toast. And then we have the 80-20 fund that was established in our centennial year. Was 00:13:25.721 --> 00:13:32.126 - it Mike Baker? Who was it who did that? Lawrence Stutter? We'll remember who it is. 00:13:32.770 --> 00:13:40.081 - was anyway, basically, it's $20 a quarter that goes towards the foundation to support its work. And 00:13:40.081 --> 00:13:47.830 - it's $80 a year. And then I'm going to be talking about the Fountain of Youth campaign that was initiated 00:13:47.830 --> 00:13:49.950 - by Lauren Snyder in 2022. So 00:13:50.082 --> 00:13:57.453 - We are primarily focused in the foundation on supporting the scholarship initiative. We distribute four 00:13:57.453 --> 00:14:02.910 - high school scholarships and then three scholarships to Ivy Tech every year. 00:14:03.266 --> 00:14:10.009 - It's a spectacular, as you well know, it's a spectacular project. And the endowment, when we talk about 00:14:10.009 --> 00:14:17.077 - the Bloomington Rotary Foundation, the foundation runs an endowment through the Bloomington Rotary Community 00:14:17.077 --> 00:14:23.755 - Foundation. And the funds that are invested in that endowment are specifically designed to support the 00:14:23.755 --> 00:14:30.304 - scholarship activity of the organization. So just be clear in your minds that the endowment is about 00:14:30.304 --> 00:14:32.638 - scholarships. We also receive funds 00:14:33.538 --> 00:14:39.934 - from the district to support the district grant. We receive funds to support community projects. And 00:14:39.934 --> 00:14:46.394 - then there are other individual passion projects that we've run that related to international work or 00:14:46.394 --> 00:14:52.916 - the refugee work that we do that we've also circulated funds through the foundation. So the foundation 00:14:52.916 --> 00:14:58.046 - functions as the recipient of gifts that you give for the good work of the club. 00:14:58.594 --> 00:15:05.740 - The only distinction I want to make here is that specifically in relation to the scholarships, a portion 00:15:05.740 --> 00:15:12.682 - of the funds that go into scholarships come from an endowment that we're building. Any questions? Are 00:15:12.682 --> 00:15:19.216 - we good about that? District Grant Match, we support that, and I've mentioned the Rotary Toast. 00:15:19.216 --> 00:15:25.886 - Moving along, I want to talk now about an announcement that we're essentially going to be making. 00:15:26.050 --> 00:15:32.420 - I was at 2022, Lawrence Snyder had this, within consultation with members of the club, had this vision 00:15:32.420 --> 00:15:38.666 - for what he called Fountain of Youth. And that is that our endowment was sitting at about 110,000 or 00:15:38.666 --> 00:15:45.036 - something like that. And he said, wouldn't it be amazing if together as a club, we developed the funds 00:15:45.036 --> 00:15:51.653 - to be able to get to, was it 50,000? Oh, wow. Okay, well, we started at 50,000. So that's a very important 00:15:51.653 --> 00:15:52.766 - correction there. 00:15:53.122 --> 00:16:01.549 - So in 2022, we started at $50,000 in our endowment. And Lauren said, wouldn't it be amazing if we together 00:16:01.549 --> 00:16:04.542 - over the next, between 2022 and 2030, 00:16:05.666 --> 00:16:15.190 - develop the funds and support that would get us to $200,000 so that we could endow those $200,000 and 00:16:15.190 --> 00:16:24.808 - then get what is it 4% a year, which is I believe somewhere around $8,000 to support in perpetuity the 00:16:24.808 --> 00:16:31.998 - scholarship program. Now I'm here to say today that we've met that goal. And 00:16:32.450 --> 00:16:39.225 - which is absolutely incredible. And Sarah Laughlin and Sally Gaskell are the two people who have done 00:16:39.225 --> 00:16:44.606 - most to really get us to where we are. So I want to congratulate the two of you. 00:16:47.074 --> 00:16:52.993 - So what's great about that is we have, I think it's like in the endowment, I had a look at it the other 00:16:52.993 --> 00:16:58.684 - day and I can't remember what the figure was. It was something like $198,000 in the endowment right 00:16:58.684 --> 00:17:04.545 - now. In addition to that, we have pledges that go well beyond the amount that would amount to 200,000. 00:17:04.545 --> 00:17:10.293 - So as you well know, the scholarship program this year elevated the support for high school students 00:17:10.293 --> 00:17:14.334 - to $2,500 a piece. I believe that it was at $1,000 before then, right? 00:17:15.106 --> 00:17:21.050 - It's been slowly moving up. It was $800, then it went to $1,000 and $1,500, and now it's $2,500 00:17:21.050 --> 00:17:27.489 - times four. So we believe that the scholarship support that we give these high school students, as well 00:17:27.489 --> 00:17:33.866 - as Ivy Tech, is transformational, highly impactful, and we want to be able to continue to do that down 00:17:33.866 --> 00:17:40.119 - the road. So if you are inspired to support this Fountain of Youth project and you feel that there's 00:17:40.119 --> 00:17:45.072 - an opportunity to continue to give to the endowment, please feel free to do so. 00:17:45.072 --> 00:17:53.813 - do so by contacting Ron Barnes, who will be in my position, or anybody on the Foundation Board. Or you 00:17:53.813 --> 00:18:02.638 - can actually go to the Bloomington Monroe County Foundation website, log in there, and then give a gift 00:18:02.638 --> 00:18:11.294 - directly to the Rotary Club through that portal as well. So there's a way. Or you could talk to them. 00:18:11.458 --> 00:18:19.264 - So how to support the Bloomington Rotary Foundation? I've spoken about the 2080 fund. So basically, 00:18:19.264 --> 00:18:27.226 - if you would like to enter into that, please speak to Steve or anybody there. If you'd like to donate 00:18:27.226 --> 00:18:32.222 - to the Fountain of Youth program, if you'd like to donate cash, 00:18:32.322 --> 00:18:38.400 - for projects that you support directly or make a bequest as you think about your giving long-term. Then 00:18:38.400 --> 00:18:44.245 - we also have a memorial fund that we have in the foundation. I'm going to move on to the reason why 00:18:44.245 --> 00:18:50.090 - we're here today. We're going to be, first of all, thanking the previous board members. You can see 00:18:50.090 --> 00:18:55.934 - them up here. Those with asterisks are actually rolling off the board. They've timed out. I want to 00:18:55.934 --> 00:19:01.662 - thank Sarah Loughlin, Sally Gaskell, Hank Walder, and John Weichardt very much for their service. 00:19:01.922 --> 00:19:08.558 - Thank you very much. And this, I'm pleased to say, is the slate for this year. We've got Ron Barnes, 00:19:08.558 --> 00:19:15.719 - who's going to be stepping in as president of the foundation, Amy Osojima, who's going to be vice president. 00:19:15.719 --> 00:19:22.683 - Our secretary will remain as Sarah Laughlin. We've got Don Cedar coming in as treasurer. And then myself, 00:19:22.683 --> 00:19:28.990 - John Zodi, will stay on. Can I just take one second? John Zodi, where are you? Please stand up. 00:19:29.154 --> 00:19:35.739 - Can we thank you for all the work that you've done as Sergio and Feliciano? Yeah. He has done 00:19:35.739 --> 00:19:42.955 - an extraordinary job. Then we've got Gerona Rotich, Jim Capshaw, Mike Wade, Jeff Richardson, and Carol 00:19:42.955 --> 00:19:49.961 - Ann Hossler. So with that, I would like to open up if anybody would like to move that we accept the 00:19:49.961 --> 00:19:53.534 - slate and vote on it. So moved by Tracy Ivanovich. 00:19:54.050 --> 00:20:01.144 - seconded by Steve Wicks. And I would like to ask you all to say aye if you support the slate. 00:20:01.144 --> 00:20:08.917 - Those in favor, say aye. And anybody against the slate? Anybody online? Congratulations, we have a new 00:20:08.917 --> 00:20:16.840 - board. I would like to anticipate this year by thanking Ron for being president of the board this coming 00:20:16.840 --> 00:20:18.878 - year. Thank you very much. 00:20:25.794 --> 00:20:40.943 - Thank you, Alan, for that happy report. Rotarian Filescu will introduce today's speaker. How many of 00:20:40.943 --> 00:20:54.142 - you were at the Christmas party at the country club seven years ago when I talked about 00:20:54.370 --> 00:21:02.356 - Anne's Christmas miracle. Do you remember that story? Well, today you have Anne. Anne started her education 00:21:02.356 --> 00:21:09.899 - at Purdue in nursing school for one year. Purdue was not accredited as a nursing school at that time, 00:21:09.899 --> 00:21:17.811 - so she transferred to Indianapolis to the IU nursing school. She got her bachelor's. She got her master's. 00:21:17.811 --> 00:21:24.318 - She's a pediatric nurse practitioner. Went to St. Vincent, spent 25 years in education. 00:21:24.738 --> 00:21:33.956 - which means you educate all new nurses, teach them how to do new techniques in pediatrics and the neonatal 00:21:33.956 --> 00:21:42.829 - intensive care unit. From there, she went to IU Health North in Carmel, helped open that hospital, and 00:21:42.829 --> 00:21:51.358 - then she served as the interim chief nursing officer. From there, she went down to Riley and was a 00:21:53.794 --> 00:22:02.793 - head of neurological services for Riley Hospital in several different areas. Because of us moving to 00:22:02.793 --> 00:22:11.881 - Bloomington, she applied and was chosen, and she is the director of women and children's services and 00:22:11.881 --> 00:22:20.702 - served here until she retired in the year 2020, one week before the pandemic shut everything down. 00:22:22.114 --> 00:22:30.104 - She has a passion for people with dementia because both of her parents had dementia. Her father had 00:22:30.104 --> 00:22:38.094 - Alzheimer's and her mother passed away of Lewy body dementia. So we now live in Bloomington. She is 00:22:38.094 --> 00:22:46.164 - currently the secretary of the Bloomington Sunrise Club and a fellow rotarian. And last year she was 00:22:46.164 --> 00:22:51.358 - rotarian of the year, but she didn't quite make it this year. So 00:22:51.970 --> 00:23:13.597 - Please welcome my wife, Anne. Thank you, Phil. That was nice. And as you heard, the majority of my career 00:23:13.597 --> 00:23:18.494 - has been in pediatrics. 00:23:18.818 --> 00:23:27.222 - my biggest passion did come from my parents. And I've been doing a lot of reading, research on dementia, 00:23:27.222 --> 00:23:35.626 - as well as the different forms of dementia-related diseases. Phil mentioned that my dad had Alzheimer's, 00:23:35.626 --> 00:23:43.710 - but my mom developed Lewy body dementia, which is far more intense than watching your dad pass away. 00:23:44.002 --> 00:23:50.611 - I've started doing the making memories and benefits of reminiscing and senior adulthood. When I look 00:23:50.611 --> 00:23:57.220 - at the group, I initially started off with this thinking that the majority of people in here were of 00:23:57.220 --> 00:24:04.222 - retirement age, but I see that's not true. But even for the younger people that haven't quite reached that 00:24:04.578 --> 00:24:11.643 - point in your lives yet. You probably have been touched by grandparents or parents that are in early 00:24:11.643 --> 00:24:18.708 - stages of having some memory issues. I think many of us go through what's the name of that or what's 00:24:18.708 --> 00:24:25.842 - the name of this. But just keeping that in mind, it's not totally about those of us that have reached 00:24:25.842 --> 00:24:31.998 - older adulthood, which is what I like to call it, as opposed to being a senior citizen. 00:24:32.322 --> 00:24:40.702 - So, um, who are we? Many of us are rotarians. Many were all men and women. Uh, many of us are 65 years 00:24:40.702 --> 00:24:49.489 - of age or older. Um, and again, that's where the senior citizen comes in. That's the actual, um, definition 00:24:49.489 --> 00:24:57.950 - of senior citizen. A few, uh, statistics as well as, um, information that I'll share in regards to, um, 00:24:58.050 --> 00:25:08.260 - being in an aging society, approximately 17.5% of Indiana's population is over the age of 65. Projections 00:25:08.260 --> 00:25:18.084 - show that by 2030, and that's only four years out from here, 20.1% it will increase with 85 year plus 00:25:18.084 --> 00:25:25.790 - people growing the fastest. So we're all in that aging population and we're all 00:25:26.338 --> 00:25:36.066 - staying a little bit more healthy and also getting older and older. Life expectancy of a 65-year-old 00:25:36.066 --> 00:25:46.276 - male is 83 years versus that of a female that's 86 years. In Indiana, we have as well as in other states, 00:25:46.276 --> 00:25:54.174 - very different county variations. The highest life expectancy is in the county of 00:25:54.274 --> 00:26:02.246 - Hamilton up in northern north of Indianapolis and the Carmel Fishers areas and the life expectancy is 00:26:02.246 --> 00:26:10.375 - 81 years versus that of those in Scott County down near Madison of almost 73 years. So a big difference 00:26:10.375 --> 00:26:18.503 - and you look at the populations in those areas and what they were, what they're doing. Projections show 00:26:18.503 --> 00:26:20.926 - that 65 year old men and women 00:26:21.026 --> 00:26:29.166 - A non-smoking couple in relatively good health will have at least one of those partners living to the 00:26:29.166 --> 00:26:35.710 - age of 92. So we're going to be around a while. And what can we do for our minds? 00:26:35.810 --> 00:26:42.660 - as we age. I know John mentioned taking a walk down memory lane, and that's truly what I'm going to 00:26:42.660 --> 00:26:49.647 - do with all of you today. Um, and hopefully you get some tips and some points that you can share with 00:26:49.647 --> 00:26:56.634 - your families, your spouses, your kids of things that they can even do. I hope our Children are doing 00:26:56.634 --> 00:27:01.566 - some of these for families for their kids to come as well. Um, remember 00:27:01.730 --> 00:27:09.244 - all the good times, but also the bad, because those truly do impact our lives and how we deal with our 00:27:09.244 --> 00:27:16.539 - lives down the road. Memories and nostalgia let us help resolve issues that we've had in our lives, 00:27:16.539 --> 00:27:24.490 - come to an understanding of it, and also look at the negative as well as positive emotions and understanding 00:27:24.490 --> 00:27:27.262 - our lives moving forward. Did I skip? 00:27:30.786 --> 00:27:39.348 - This is from 1941. Phil had one of those lovely birthday cards that comes, that goes through everything 00:27:39.348 --> 00:27:47.663 - that happened in that year. You've probably all seen those. This one in 1941 life expectancy was 60, 00:27:47.663 --> 00:27:55.978 - about 63 years. A new house costs $4,000 new car, $850. Yes. Wow. Look at the young man saying, wow, 00:27:55.978 --> 00:27:58.942 - up here. Gas was 12 cents a gallon. 00:27:59.042 --> 00:28:06.679 - It's coming down though, I understand. So that's a good thing. Eggs were 20 cents a dozen, bread was 00:28:06.679 --> 00:28:12.350 - eight cents and milk was 54 cents a gallon. So lots of changes since 1941. 00:28:16.770 --> 00:28:26.119 - Some of the challenges that we have with our growing population today in Indiana is that the median 00:28:26.119 --> 00:28:35.748 - household income is approximately $50,000. Cost of living is 15% below the national average. Indiana's 00:28:35.748 --> 00:28:45.097 - sales tax is among the highest in the nation. Our state's overall health care system for seniors is 00:28:45.097 --> 00:28:46.686 - average at best. 00:28:47.042 --> 00:28:55.350 - This little stat I threw in here between 2020 remember the pandemic had hit and 2022 firearm deaths 00:28:55.350 --> 00:29:03.907 - in our state were higher among men aged 65 and above. So some of those men that lost their jobs during 00:29:03.907 --> 00:29:12.216 - that time were faced with enormous financial challenges while the drug deaths rates were higher for 00:29:12.216 --> 00:29:16.702 - black older adults compared to white older adults. So 00:29:18.050 --> 00:29:26.926 - just a stat. So what is reminiscing? Reminiscing is the act of recalling personal experiences, feelings, 00:29:26.926 --> 00:29:35.970 - and events from the past through informal chats with loved ones, family, and friends, or it can be through 00:29:35.970 --> 00:29:39.774 - a more structured exercise with a caregiver. 00:29:42.562 --> 00:29:49.140 - There's many, many ways to reminisce. We're going to go through some and I'll have some photos of them 00:29:49.140 --> 00:29:55.527 - as well. But using our five senses is one of the biggest things that we all utilize for reminiscing 00:29:55.527 --> 00:29:59.934 - smells that bring back memories of something or photos that you see. 00:30:00.034 --> 00:30:07.869 - things that you hear, music, looking at photos, photo albums. I know Phil's mom was a huge scrapbooker 00:30:07.869 --> 00:30:15.629 - in her life. She made 49 scrapbooks for members of the family. So again, everything included in those 00:30:15.629 --> 00:30:23.388 - listening to your favorite music that you had as a youth participating in memory cafes. I know I gave 00:30:23.388 --> 00:30:25.822 - this talk to my PEO chapter and 00:30:27.490 --> 00:30:36.317 - Many of them live at Meadowood and they actually do memory cafes over there for groups of their residents. 00:30:36.317 --> 00:30:44.649 - Using virtual reality or virtual tours, the goggles that you can put on to actually take a trip back 00:30:44.649 --> 00:30:53.641 - to Scotland that you did when you were younger. And then also watching classic movies and sports highlights. 00:30:53.641 --> 00:30:56.446 - So this is our home, lower level. 00:30:56.738 --> 00:31:06.019 - kind of our memory source in our house. Phil has several walls filled with many things from throughout 00:31:06.019 --> 00:31:15.030 - his life, including his professional career as a physician, the activities that he was involved in. 00:31:15.030 --> 00:31:22.238 - That's the one on the far left there. The one at the bottom is his rotary wall. 00:31:22.338 --> 00:31:29.792 - as well as his DePaul wall. And then all of our IU things, I got relegated to the upstairs, is in our 00:31:29.792 --> 00:31:37.173 - den. So we have much of our memorabilia on those walls. And the kids have kind of chuckled when they 00:31:37.173 --> 00:31:44.553 - see this room because we feel like we could use it as a visitation parlor when the time comes. Won't 00:31:44.553 --> 00:31:51.934 - have to put everything on the easels in the funeral home, but can have a big party at our house with 00:31:52.130 --> 00:31:59.560 - with the memorabilia. Now the one on the top right is interesting. These are all of our pictures. We've 00:31:59.560 --> 00:32:06.776 - been to many places. We've done lots of things. But unlike Phil's mom, I have failed to put these in 00:32:06.776 --> 00:32:14.064 - scrapbooks or photo albums. So everything is cataloged. We've at least made it that far. And our goal 00:32:14.064 --> 00:32:19.422 - is to really take care of all of these pictures in the next few years. But 00:32:19.522 --> 00:32:26.209 - Um, it gets kind of cumbersome because in at Christmas time, when this photo was taken, um, we had to 00:32:26.209 --> 00:32:32.766 - move everything out of our storage room to get to the Christmas tree. And that was all of these. So 00:32:32.766 --> 00:32:39.387 - they're now back in the storage room out of sight, out of mind, um, until winter comes and hopefully 00:32:39.387 --> 00:32:46.337 - we'll be able to do something with them. School yearbooks, um, going through those, having those reunions 00:32:46.337 --> 00:32:48.894 - with your classmates, those can all be 00:32:49.186 --> 00:32:55.797 - sources of reminiscing, watching your favorite movies. Think about the first movie that you want to 00:32:55.797 --> 00:33:02.870 - see at a movie theater as a kid. And then reliving holiday traditions. I know I love getting our Christmas 00:33:02.870 --> 00:33:10.142 - tree out. We collected ornaments from all over the places that we visited. And I love to go through that. And 00:33:10.242 --> 00:33:16.353 - As I put them up, think about where they came from, what we were doing, who we were with at the time. 00:33:16.353 --> 00:33:22.523 - And then another one is looking at what you did during those times, like with baking cookies with your 00:33:22.523 --> 00:33:28.574 - mom or your grandmother. And I know one of our favorites is Easter. Our kids always came for Easter. 00:33:28.574 --> 00:33:34.565 - We'd have a big Easter egg hunt in the yard up at the lake and Phil would bake a bunny cake. One of 00:33:34.565 --> 00:33:36.542 - the cakes with the icing and the 00:33:36.706 --> 00:33:44.894 - coconut with the grandkids. That was always a big event for them to participate in doing that. Hearing 00:33:44.894 --> 00:33:53.003 - impactful songs, as I mentioned, is one that we can all think back on to what we were doing as a teen 00:33:53.003 --> 00:34:01.112 - or maybe at our wedding. Music has a true power that's really been proven to help those patients that 00:34:01.112 --> 00:34:05.246 - suffer from dementia and dementia-related diseases. 00:34:05.442 --> 00:34:13.278 - having music therapy for those specific types of patients can be a huge benefit. Looking at keepsakes, 00:34:13.278 --> 00:34:21.113 - jewelry, possessions that the family member has, and then also the use of technology, sharing Facebook 00:34:21.113 --> 00:34:29.101 - memories, creating digital scrapbooks, and also diaries. The top right picture, you probably can't quite 00:34:29.101 --> 00:34:34.046 - tell what that is, but that is a box full of diaries that Philip 00:34:34.306 --> 00:34:43.148 - Newton SQ has kept since he was 13 years old. So he has every single one of them. And it's like, what 00:34:43.148 --> 00:34:52.164 - do you do with that box? He started actually compiling them when we retired down here in 18 and started 00:34:52.164 --> 00:35:00.919 - a Word document. So he's going back, looking through what he did on that specific day when he was 15 00:35:00.919 --> 00:35:02.046 - or whatever. 00:35:02.530 --> 00:35:10.606 - putting it into that word document at the bottom. So what are the benefits of reminiscing? It preserves 00:35:10.606 --> 00:35:18.371 - our family history. It leaves something for our kids and our grandkids of personal value, keeps our 00:35:18.371 --> 00:35:26.291 - stories alive, encourages seniors to share their stories and preserves these memories and strengthens 00:35:26.291 --> 00:35:29.630 - our family bonds. It does help improve our 00:35:29.858 --> 00:35:37.867 - coping skills, recalling past successes and moments of resilience can help deal with current challenges 00:35:37.867 --> 00:35:45.952 - and with a more positive outlook. And it encourages problem-solving skills. It does reduce and has shown 00:35:45.952 --> 00:35:52.190 - in studies to reduce symptoms of depression. Research shows that reminiscing can 00:35:52.290 --> 00:35:59.122 - be an effective tool for easing depression in adults, recalling positive memories, meaningful connections 00:35:59.122 --> 00:36:05.632 - in our lives and providing a sense of purpose and belonging. Sharing stories with others detracts us 00:36:05.632 --> 00:36:12.141 - from worrying about what's going on, having fun while sharing memories. And when sharing in a group, 00:36:12.141 --> 00:36:19.102 - we can receive the affirmation of, wow, that's really cool or that's really great and promoting positivity. 00:36:20.610 --> 00:36:27.905 - It promotes physical health. Happy memories don't just lift our spirits, they do reduce our stress levels. 00:36:27.905 --> 00:36:34.791 - Again, this has been shown in studies. Chronic stress raises our cortisol levels, which is linked to 00:36:34.791 --> 00:36:41.950 - heart disease, obesity, and immunological problems. By lowering our stress, reminiscing may help support 00:36:41.950 --> 00:36:46.654 - heart health, improve our sleep quality, encourage healthier habits, 00:36:47.042 --> 00:36:55.589 - as well as exercise, nutrition, and relaxation. Reminiscing through storytelling, I threw this research 00:36:55.589 --> 00:37:04.219 - article in that came out in a journal. It's the BMC Geriatrics out of the UK. While it was a small study 00:37:04.219 --> 00:37:12.766 - population, they really found some great information. The experimental group participated, oops, sorry, 00:37:12.898 --> 00:37:22.576 - participated in an eight week life story intervention using their personal memories and photographs 00:37:22.576 --> 00:37:32.448 - and objects and past experiences. It gave them up gave them a platform. To reflect on their lives and 00:37:32.448 --> 00:37:40.094 - the participants attitudes truly did change about aging and it improved sorry. 00:37:41.090 --> 00:37:47.873 - me dead out of that one. So in this picture, some of you may be familiar with these. The top two are 00:37:47.873 --> 00:37:54.722 - from a company called Story Worth. I don't know if anybody's done a story worth book. Anybody in here 00:37:54.722 --> 00:38:01.572 - besides Phil? Good, good, good, good. But this is something online that you sign up for, you register 00:38:01.572 --> 00:38:05.534 - and every week they send you a question and you answer it. 00:38:06.114 --> 00:38:12.819 - You can also change the question. You can add your own. You can put in pictures at the end of the year 00:38:12.819 --> 00:38:19.330 - time that you've done this, then they will publish your book for you and send it to you. And it's a 00:38:19.330 --> 00:38:26.100 - great, great reminder. The bottom one is actually very similar, but it's for grandkids. So grandparents 00:38:26.100 --> 00:38:28.574 - will do this one for their grandkids. 00:38:30.274 --> 00:38:38.525 - So the findings on that study actually showed that the experimental group had a significant increase 00:38:38.525 --> 00:38:47.267 - in positive attitudes toward aging compared to that of the control group. Fostering that positive attitude 00:38:47.267 --> 00:38:56.008 - is key for enhancing psychological well-being and successful aging. Ageism for many people kind of equates 00:38:56.008 --> 00:38:59.358 - with being older, sorry, being older and 00:39:02.050 --> 00:39:09.919 - giving us a feeling of incompetence, helplessness, and illness. But the experimental group demonstrated 00:39:09.919 --> 00:39:17.787 - that this isn't true. It gave them increased awareness of age-related changes and made them the ability 00:39:17.787 --> 00:39:26.110 - to adapt to those changes. So other things you could do, write a book. This is a book called I Remember When. 00:39:26.338 --> 00:39:34.554 - that Phil's mother wrote at the age of 89 following her 55th wedding anniversary. She wanted to have 00:39:34.554 --> 00:39:42.770 - something to give to her grandchildren to remember her. And she spoke to things that happened in her 00:39:42.770 --> 00:39:51.230 - life during that time. So Phil had it bound and we gave it to all the grandchildren who've all read it. 00:39:51.426 --> 00:39:59.378 - And they've passed it on to their children now. So a huge remembrance for a great, great lady. You can 00:39:59.378 --> 00:40:07.870 - do journaling, just writing to yourself. Many of us did that as kids, keeping our own little journal diaries. 00:40:09.218 --> 00:40:17.120 - But reminiscing isn't just storytelling. It's a powerful way to improve mental, emotional, and physical 00:40:17.120 --> 00:40:25.098 - health. For all of us, sharing memories strengthens relationships, preserves our histories, and enriches 00:40:25.098 --> 00:40:33.151 - our daily life. Being encouraged to reflect on the moments that shaped us will show us the joy and wisdom 00:40:33.151 --> 00:40:38.014 - those moments bring. So, if you remember Phil's box of diaries, 00:40:39.106 --> 00:40:47.143 - coming to a bookseller near you in late 2026. He's got a publisher. He's finished putting everything 00:40:47.143 --> 00:40:55.418 - into that Word document that you saw the first two pages of earlier. And so we're kind of excited about 00:40:55.418 --> 00:41:03.693 - this. He's not sure who's going to read it, but it's got some great information and reflections of life 00:41:03.693 --> 00:41:06.558 - in it. And I think it'll be fun. So 00:41:07.266 --> 00:41:14.082 - You're going to help me with this. Um, the final one that I want to share with you is called odd of 00:41:14.082 --> 00:41:20.966 - the memory banks. This was an app pro or is an app program that was developed by our niece who lives 00:41:20.966 --> 00:41:28.123 - on the East coast. And she did this, um, because her mother developed Alzheimer's disease and she wanted 00:41:28.123 --> 00:41:29.214 - to capture, um, 00:41:29.986 --> 00:41:39.912 - moments with her mother that were still her mother. And it's a great app to use. This is actually my 00:41:39.912 --> 00:41:50.133 - brother-in-law whose past was her climate and this was her father-in-law. So if you want to click maybe 00:41:50.133 --> 00:41:53.278 - on the college, but you can see 00:41:53.410 --> 00:42:01.209 - You go in and the app will ask you questions. You have two minutes to answer, and then you can upload 00:42:01.209 --> 00:42:08.854 - it and put pictures in it and whatever else you want. Just hit play and they can get an idea of the 00:42:08.854 --> 00:42:16.653 - first one. It's really cool because it keeps their voice. I had read a book about Paul Dirac, who was 00:42:16.653 --> 00:42:22.846 - one of the great physicists of the 1930s and helped to invent quantum mechanics. 00:42:23.266 --> 00:42:31.587 - And it talked a little bit about quantum mechanics. And that just fascinated me. It was such a strange 00:42:31.587 --> 00:42:39.827 - thing. The way things worked in those days is the dean of men told you which college you could go to. 00:42:39.827 --> 00:42:47.986 - That is, he had a certain number of slots from Harvard, MIT, Princeton, all of those. So he was your 00:42:47.986 --> 00:42:52.510 - guidance counselor as to where you could go to college. 00:42:53.090 --> 00:43:02.071 - I felt a little bit bad about going to MIT, because if I'd gone to Columbia or RPI, since they were 00:43:02.071 --> 00:43:11.232 - in New York State, I would have had a scholarship there. I graduated from MIT, and I wanted to get to 00:43:11.232 --> 00:43:18.238 - the West Coast. So I had applied to, but I was trying to. So you can see that 00:43:18.402 --> 00:43:25.875 - You decide what you want to put in there. You decide your chapters. Um, you ask your questions and it 00:43:25.875 --> 00:43:33.202 - tapes your voice, which is something that I really, really miss from my mom and dad is hearing them 00:43:33.202 --> 00:43:40.382 - talk. So Phil's working on his, so I have his and I'm working on mine. So our kids have mine. Um, 00:43:40.482 --> 00:43:56.552 - But I think it's a great, great app that's easy to download and easy to use, as well as putting in pictures 00:43:56.552 --> 00:44:08.158 - from the past. So I'll take questions. Am I good on questions? Anybody? Jeff? 00:44:10.114 --> 00:44:27.188 - Yes, sir. Maybe. Thank you. Oh, I don't know. Can you put that resource? Okay. Sure. Yes, I can share 00:44:27.188 --> 00:44:39.742 - it. I can send it to you, Steve, if you want. Yes, ma'am. Michelle. Sorry. 00:44:40.674 --> 00:44:47.805 - One of the things that I've learned from my family is that the younger generation is really not at all 00:44:47.805 --> 00:44:55.006 - interested in anything that you have in your home. None of the antiques, none of the reminiscence. They 00:44:55.006 --> 00:45:01.999 - just don't want it at all. Their life is very different. So how do we handle that? And what do we do 00:45:01.999 --> 00:45:09.130 - with our things that we appreciate? Well, like we've done, we're getting rid of a lot of those things. 00:45:09.130 --> 00:45:10.238 - But I think the 00:45:10.434 --> 00:45:18.937 - the books or out of the app, not that I'm trying to sell an app, but that app is something that they 00:45:18.937 --> 00:45:27.440 - can have access to. And I know Herb's kids have all done an actual app presentation with theirs that 00:45:27.440 --> 00:45:36.027 - they did for their dad on Father's Day. So they've gotten involved in that, and they're getting their 00:45:36.027 --> 00:45:38.974 - children involved in that as well. 00:45:39.362 --> 00:45:49.930 - I can't give you any better because our kids don't want our stuff either, but maybe the app, maybe the 00:45:49.930 --> 00:46:00.189 - book. Yes, sir. There was a, this lady who is our, my nephew's wife started this, her mother was in 00:46:00.189 --> 00:46:07.166 - the nursing home and she went over there and asked her mother says, 00:46:07.746 --> 00:46:14.524 - What do you remember about your wedding? Well, this talked about it. She came back a week later and 00:46:14.524 --> 00:46:21.574 - she played it for her mother and her mother said, that's my voice. Well, you didn't tell me about this. 00:46:21.574 --> 00:46:28.487 - You didn't tell me about the folks that came. And then she went on and on and on and talked about all 00:46:28.487 --> 00:46:35.537 - the memories that were stimulated from hearing her voice. So she's the one that has this thing. I mean, 00:46:35.537 --> 00:46:36.350 - it's great. 00:46:36.610 --> 00:46:43.783 - And you say your kids don't want anything that may be true, but you heard what Ann said, how I miss 00:46:43.783 --> 00:46:51.243 - hearing their voice. And it's, you know, it's something that kids at some point in their life will want 00:46:51.243 --> 00:46:58.487 - to know. Can you all think of the things you wish you would ask your father or your mother? Oh my, I 00:46:58.487 --> 00:47:00.926 - just had another 30 minutes. Yep. 00:47:12.098 --> 00:47:19.222 - And thank you for your talk. So I'm the youngest of five. Uh, we've lost our oldest sister, but it's 00:47:19.222 --> 00:47:26.276 - interesting of the four of us remaining when we get together in two of us or three of us or four of 00:47:26.276 --> 00:47:33.471 - us and share memories, one, how they're different. And then also how our personalities, uh, there are 00:47:33.471 --> 00:47:39.326 - two of us who are definitely glasses almost full and there's one glasses is empty. 00:47:39.490 --> 00:47:46.427 - It's just really interesting. We had many of the same experiences, but we remember different things 00:47:46.427 --> 00:47:53.850 - and we certainly look at them in different ways. But for my one sister whose memories tend to be negative, 00:47:53.850 --> 00:48:00.927 - I actually think in her case, when we talk about things, it doesn't really help her. So can you maybe 00:48:00.927 --> 00:48:08.072 - comment for those who have lots of bad memories, the positives and negatives about reminiscing? Is she 00:48:08.072 --> 00:48:09.182 - older than you? 00:48:09.538 --> 00:48:18.132 - Yeah, she's eight years older. OK, just from a medical standpoint, that's her trigger. And there's probably 00:48:18.132 --> 00:48:26.248 - nothing that you can really do to change that other than making sure that you continue to include her 00:48:26.248 --> 00:48:34.603 - in the discussions. And maybe between the other three of you, you can make light of the fact that, well, 00:48:34.603 --> 00:48:36.990 - I don't remember it that way. 00:48:37.250 --> 00:48:45.929 - or I do remember it that way. Um, but to kind of calm that trigger a little bit, um, triggers, especially 00:48:45.929 --> 00:48:54.280 - with people that may be having some stressors in their lives and have some, I won't say dementia, but 00:48:54.280 --> 00:49:02.550 - forgetting or not remembering some of the things. If she's feeling that because she doesn't remember 00:49:02.550 --> 00:49:06.398 - that, that's a huge trigger. Yes, Jeff. Sorry. 00:49:06.786 --> 00:49:14.430 - Oh, I'm sorry. I keep forgetting. I would also say to piggyback on that is I think it also matters about 00:49:14.430 --> 00:49:22.219 - birth order because the context in which I grew up, and I'm the oldest, was very different in the context. 00:49:22.219 --> 00:49:30.227 - My two younger sisters, one is four years younger than I am, the other is 10. And they're combined experience 00:49:30.227 --> 00:49:35.614 - because they mostly grew up in California when my parents had more money. 00:49:35.938 --> 00:49:44.384 - made things quite a bit different. Interesting. Just build on Steve's point. In addition to focusing 00:49:44.384 --> 00:49:52.830 - on the person who's having bad memories or memory issues, what's your advice for also people who are 00:49:52.830 --> 00:50:01.526 - living with people who are having these issues, the caregivers, the loved ones? What advice or guidance 00:50:01.526 --> 00:50:04.286 - do you give them as this journey 00:50:04.578 --> 00:50:13.394 - continues. There's a lot of great resources out there from the Alzheimer's Association. That's one place 00:50:13.394 --> 00:50:22.126 - to go. But I think learning as much as you can, they also have a really great support structure on that 00:50:22.126 --> 00:50:30.523 - website that can connect you with people via zoom. If you can get into a support group around here, 00:50:30.523 --> 00:50:32.286 - also that would be a 00:50:32.546 --> 00:50:40.901 - a good thing to do just to support that journey because everybody's is different. And it does take a 00:50:40.901 --> 00:50:49.421 - lot of work to really be accepting of things. I know when I first moved my mom into a facility, it was 00:50:49.421 --> 00:50:58.686 - really tough for me because they didn't want me to come and visit. They wanted her to get used to the facility. 00:50:58.882 --> 00:51:05.655 - And I was used to seeing her every day, sitting with her while she ate, doing all sorts of things. And 00:51:05.655 --> 00:51:12.362 - when I went back, when I was allowed to go back, I realized that that was her new family. Even though 00:51:12.362 --> 00:51:19.003 - she knew I was her daughter and that I was visiting, but those were the people that were taking care 00:51:19.003 --> 00:51:25.118 - of her. So, um, so it's a hard journey, but it's one that I would never trade. Um, her last. 00:51:25.442 --> 00:51:33.314 - Moments were some of the most special in my life. She loved music. She loved listening to prayers and 00:51:33.314 --> 00:51:41.341 - that's how she left this earth. So knowing that and working with that really helped. I just have a very 00:51:41.341 --> 00:51:49.291 - basic question about the app. Is the information just all cloud-based or can you actually download and 00:51:49.291 --> 00:51:54.462 - preserve that yourself? It's all cloud-based, isn't it, Phil? Yes. 00:52:01.506 --> 00:52:10.219 - Hi there. My husband's children kept wanting him to give them his memories. They sent him tape recorders. 00:52:10.219 --> 00:52:18.849 - They did this. He just did not want to do it. I finally realized he was not going to do it, but he would 00:52:18.849 --> 00:52:25.918 - talk to me about his memories and I would write them down. We got one of those books. 00:52:26.146 --> 00:52:33.851 - services and we had questions and I I'd ask him and he'd answer and I'd write something and read it 00:52:33.851 --> 00:52:41.941 - to him and then he'd edit it and say no at you know and and the year after he he didn't we didn't finish 00:52:41.941 --> 00:52:49.954 - the questions before he died but my year of grieving I I finished I put the book together and sometimes 00:52:49.954 --> 00:52:54.654 - I asked his children for a particular memory or a friend and 00:52:55.138 --> 00:53:02.885 - I gave that to them on their birthdays and they were very grateful. I will tell you that with the app, 00:53:02.885 --> 00:53:10.481 - when we first learned about it, we were visiting out East and our daughter or our nephew's wife came 00:53:10.481 --> 00:53:18.152 - in, was at the apartment and was asking Phil questions. Herb and Liz were sitting there in the living 00:53:18.152 --> 00:53:24.094 - room and she asked Phil some questions, not knowing that she was recording it. 00:53:24.194 --> 00:53:36.243 - And so then she played it back. And so you can sneak in that phone a little bit with that recording 00:53:36.243 --> 00:53:48.775 - and capture those voices. But that's how we actually found out about the program itself. OK. Thank you. 00:53:48.775 --> 00:53:52.510 - Thanks so much. And thank you. 00:53:53.122 --> 00:54:01.209 - You're obviously aging with grace and competence. In honor of your talk, a donation will be made this 00:54:01.209 --> 00:54:08.821 - quarter to Wheeler Mission. I'd like to thank today's volunteers, Katie Cerniak, Peggy Frisbee, 00:54:08.821 --> 00:54:17.225 - Phil Eskew, Laurie Garrity, Judy Schroeder, Bob Zaltzberg, Michael Shermis, Jeff Richardson, Amy Osejima, 00:54:17.225 --> 00:54:21.982 - and Alann Barker. Don't forget, we won't be here next week. 00:54:22.178 --> 00:54:32.038 - We will be at the Bryan Park Woodlawn Shelter, noon to one. There'll be no Zoom next week. So please 00:54:32.038 --> 00:54:41.799 - attend the club picnic if you're able to. Tyler, would you share the graphic for the four-way test? 00:54:41.799 --> 00:54:50.878 - And please stand if you're able. Of the things we think, say, or do, first, is it the truth? 00:54:51.170 --> 00:54:58.485 - Second, is it fair to all concerned? Third, will it build goodwill and better friendships? Fourth, will 00:54:58.485 --> 00:55:02.494 - it be beneficial to all concerned? And fifth, is it fun?